The ability to set boundaries is usually established early in life. Children who have parents who show them that they are respected and valued are more likely to establish good boundaries in adult relationships. They are also more likely to have a more positive image of themselves, overall. On the other hand, people who do not value themselves may have trouble setting limits on others. They may feel guilty or fear that they will no longer be liked by people if they try to establish or maintain a boundary. This can create problems, if people don’t respect someone’s space and time. Lack of respect can not only add to stress, but can make a person feel less valued.
- try to please others
Pleasing people can also be another common symptom of low self -esteem. To get external validation, people who are not good at themselves can go high and forward to make sure others are comfortable and happy. These often include neglecting their own needs, saying yes to things they may not want to do, and feeling guilty about saying no.
- Effect of low self -esteem
Research suggests that low self -esteem is associated with many mental health issues, including:
- eating abnormalities,
- emotional turmoil,
- panic disorder,
- dangerous behavior,
- social anxiety disorder,
- substance use,
Low self-esteem can make it difficult to achieve your goals and build healthy, supportive relationships. It may also play a role in the development of certain mental health problems and conditions, including anxiety and depression.
Research has also shown that people with low self -esteem are more likely to have suicidal thoughts. Having low self -esteem also makes people more receptive to criticism or rejection. If someone with high self -esteem is more likely to be able to eliminate negative comments, someone with low self -esteem will be more personal. It can also make people with self-esteem issues more likely to quit when faced with challenges or obstacles.
Research has found that people with low self -esteem often engage in behaviors designed to help maintain their low self -esteem. Actions such as acting sad or dressing are designed to try to get support from others. Unfortunately, these behaviors are likely to recur. Instead of getting the support and encouragement they need to improve their self -esteem, they get negative reactions from others.
Low self -esteem can affect your emotional well -being. So it’s important to take steps to address your self -esteem and get the support you need. Building your self -esteem takes time, but there are things you can do to help protect your mental well -being as you take steps to improve your self -esteem. Things you can help include:
- Focus on optimistic thoughts
Take some time each day to focus on positive, optimistic thoughts. Notice the little things you are good at and allow yourself to be proud of them. Think about past times when you went through something very difficult and remind yourself that even if you don’t feel your best now, you have the ability and energy to keep going.
Bad self -esteem can sometimes make you feel like you don’t deserve the attention and consideration. Try to remember that you need to take care and look for things you can do to show your own kindness, no matter how small. Take time to do the thing you love. Treat yourself to moments of rest and relaxation. Investing in your own care and comfort is not a waste or a reward you should get – it is very important to your physical and mental health.
- Get outside support
Share your struggles with another person who can provide unconditional support. It could be a friend or family member, but it could also be someone such as a doctor, therapist, teacher, or member of the clergy. Having a network of caring people who love you and want you to value yourself can help when working to improve your self -esteem.
How to improve self -esteem
If you suffer from low self-esteem, there are things you can do to help improve how you feel about yourself. Some of these strategies include:
Start paying attention to the automatic negative thoughts you have every day. If there are negative thoughts, it is important to work to actively identify mental distortions and replace unnecessary thoughts with positive ones.
If you tend to dwell on your mistakes or failures, it is important that you learn to forgive yourself and move on. It will keep you focused on the things you can do better in the future, rather than the negative things that have happened in the past.
- Practice self -acceptance
It’s important to let go of the idea that you have to be perfect to be valuable. Work on accepting who you are now. This doesn’t mean you don’t have goals or things you want to improve, but it’s important to recognize that you deserve the love and respect – of yourself and others – exactly as you are now.
Take time to reflect on the things you have accomplished and the things you are proud of. Allow yourself to appreciate your value and talents without comparing or focusing on the things you want to change. You don’t have to be better at valuing yourself, but learning to value yourself can help you achieve your goals. It helps to think of yourself as a friend. How would you treat someone you love who is in the same situation? In many cases, you may find that you show them understanding, patience, empathy, and kindness. That’s why it’s important to show you the same unconditional support, instead of blaming yourself.
Ways to raise low self -esteem
Here are some tips to boost your self -confidence:
- Do something that makes you happy.
- Stay physically active – exercise can help improve mood.
- Think of something you prefer.
- Keep a journal of gratitude.
- Challenge negative thinking.
- Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.
- Volunteer to help others.
- Remember that everything is wrong.
- Celebrate your accomplishments, big and small.
Self -esteem plays an important role in your ability to pursue goals, develop healthy relationships, and feel good about yourself. While everyone struggles with their self -confidence from time to time, low self -esteem can affect your ability to feel happy and can even make you more vulnerable to mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.
If you are showing symptoms of low self -esteem, there are ways to get help. Consider talking to a doctor or mental health professional. A therapist can help you change thought patterns that contribute to low self-esteem and improve your confidence and opinion of yourself and your abilities. Changing the way you see yourself may take time and effort, but over time you will learn to see yourself better and appreciate yourself for who you are.
Dr. Isoux Jr. Jerome, Psy. D