In his attempt learning to love (Allary Editions), the philosopher Alexandre Lacroix wonders about the art of love in 2022. By studying sexual activity under the metaphysical and ethical prism, the author seeks to develop a truly secular philosophy of reconnection in happiness. .
The director of Philosophy Magazine Starting from the observation of a poverty in the sex life, due in part to the quick access to what he called “mainstream porn”. But this access does not guarantee sexual fulfillment, on the contrary. According to him, this straitjacket of performance results in restraining men and depriving women of their happiness. In an article published by Figaro Madame on June 12, the philosopher also determined that this depravity is reflected in the increase in consultations with sexologists in the growing young population, with a significant proportion of couples. aged 25 to 35.
The author also criticizes a conformism and deconstructs this vision of mechanical love to call the experience of sexuality in a more aesthetic way. She recommends taking time to love yourself and start a real quest for happiness.
A “scandal” leaflet
Alexandre Decroix’s postulate, like the title of his book, is reminiscent of that contained in a leaflet written by a general practitioner, Jean Carpentier (1935-2014), and signed by the Action Committee for the liberation of sexuality in 1971. That year, as he recounts in this link, two high school students were caught kissing a teacher. The administration wrote to their parents asking them to punish them. Angry, the two high school students approached Jean Carpentier. Together, they wrote this tract, a kind of sex education course titled Let us learn to love.
The leaflet was distributed to Corbeil high school students in Essonne, then the movement spread to other high schools, spreading. Outraged, many families file complaints of contempt for good manners. At the same time, a support committee should be organized composed of colleagues and intellectuals such as Michel Foucault. But the sentence of the National Council of the Order of Physicians is about to fall: a one -year suspension, symbolizing the lead screed that still reigns, three years after the sexual revolution in May 1968, in France.
At the time, Dr. wanted. Carpentier to support teens in their discovery of sexuality by offering them simple, invented and free sex education. His goal, he would say it five years later in the magazine “What are we afraid of? “, into the microphone of Danièle Guilbert, director of a documentary series about French and love. She met him at his house. In its titled text Let us learn to love, Doctor Carpentier has already linked the idea of pleasure and happiness to a happy and satisfying sexuality. The subtitle of the text is clear: ” it’s the way to happiness, it’s the most beautiful way to communicate with each other and get to know each other “. After recounting the genesis of this leaflet which marks the beginning of the questioning of sexual taboo, he created a concept of the pursuit of pleasure and social behavior.
Happiness and submission
He believed that if people were able to use their bodies for pleasure, not only stimulated by their sexual organs, but with all the senses they could use, they would no longer accept living in moderation or indulgence. social abuse (employment rate, transportation conditions, etc.). This rejection of pleasure, the lack of listening to needs and the lack of sexual satisfaction, according to him, are the symptoms of slavery. In 1971, sexual taboos were still very strong in society and he assured her that, to restrain people, there was nothing better than to extinguish in them any tendency to seek pleasure.
In this oppressive power, it includes ” teachers, doctors, priests, police, teachers … in short, all representatives of the social order. Mga ” who is there to turn people into the trap he insisted, and added that in order for a society to function, happiness must be pass “where” withheld “. This is what he is trying to change with the leaflet and this is why he is still calling for a collective discussion, proving that power is real.” in the US »But that each of us has within him two ambivalent characters that lead to a permanent struggle between« the desire to be free and the desire to be included in the system, ” to prevent “.
Let us learn to love by Jean Carpentier and learning to love by Alexandre Lacroix was not written at the same time, but both texts attempted to raise awareness of the existence of social and unconscious locks that govern sexuality. In 1971, it was a question of blowing up the moral imposition of society. In 2022, it will be a question of freeing oneself from the imposed performative shackles. But where the two authors are undoubtedly united in their common quest for a return to a strong, satisfying and liberating sexuality that combines desire and pleasure. The real search for pleasure in their eyes is the way to reconnect with self… and therefore with others.