Buying everyday products for animals, taking care of veterinary appointments, changing litter or taking them for a walk … ifop has now published the results of a study on sharing tasks relating to animals within the ash. Initial research conducted on the subject, the result was expected and clearly worrying: 81% of the women who responded to the online questionnaire believed that they were in charge of most of the animal -related tasks within the common household.
Gender stereotypes are at the root of evils
In particular, 64% of women surveyed said they buy everyday products for the animals themselves (kibbles, treats, toys, etc.); and 59% of them pay for veterinary appointments and care more than their spouse. “Even if choosing a pet is often a collective decision, in the end the woman always has the responsibility for it because for her gender stereotypes give responsibility for good home care”, as by François Kraus, director of the Gender/Sexuality division at IFOP.
And precisely, “good home care” still keeps women today in a wife role slowly disappearing, according to a study by Insee (2015): if in 1985 women cared for 69% of household chores and 80% of parenting chores, the numbers dropped sharply in 25 years, falling to 64% and 71% respectively. It must be said that the incarcerations involved in the pandemic have not helped anything, when it comes to sharing household chores or children. For an example, INSEE revealed in a May 2020 study that 54% of mothers care for children more than 4 hours a day, compared to only 38% of fathers.
Work, laundry, cooking, baby, pet … The weight that a woman has to bear every day to manage a common life has a name: the mental weight.
“It’s a matter of training! »
On Facebook, a private group of 3,000 female members is specially dedicated to it. A sharing space that also serves as an outlet, where women support each other through their difficulties managing their mental burden. It is an “act of management, organization and planning that is at the same time intangible, unavoidable and consistent, and that aims to meet the needs of all and the smooth running of the home”, d ’after the researcher Nicole Brais (Laval University, Quebec). ).
For Lucie, 38, “it’s a training question”. This lawyer in a relationship for 6 years and owner of a dog lives in an apartment in the capital. She laughs when we talk about household chores. “Actually, I have two days. One working in my office, and then one at home, he believed. My partner enjoyed doing the housework and walking the dog, but the problem was that I had to ask him to do it. Basically, I have to always plan everything without any initiative on his part, ”he lamented, always admitting that Pako was walking while calling work.
Christine, 47, even used two diary applications on her mobile phone to avoid “falling into the situation”. On the one hand, he writes down his professional requirements, and on the other hand what needs to be done at home with his spouse or on his own. “We have three children, two dogs and a cat. It’s a happy mess, ”the Sartrouville (Yvelines) resident scoffed. Especially since the dog suffers from a well-known problem of large canines, hip dysplasia, which requires close veterinary supervision. “My husband decided to take care of the upkeep of the house and the garden, while I had to take care of everything, so the cleaning, cooking, kids and animals”.
One click and one phone call for a little help
Ladies (and gentlemen alike), know that if you’re overweight with your animals or if you don’t have time to take care of them tonight, it’s just one click on the Internet to find- your savior, the Keeper of the flock. He takes care of the animals in the owner’s house, or walks them outside. In theory, it is a professional who has in his pocket the Certificate of Knowledge for Pets of Domestic Species (ACACED). In practice, anyone can offer this type of service on the Internet-so be careful to favor trained pet sitters. Among them, dog handlers are the most popular. Count between 10 and 15 € per hour for a classic walk and about 25 euros for a more specific walk like the forest. Or if not, you can also ask your spouse to take initiatives, you never know!