“Sex education for teenagers is a right and it should be egalitarian”, asks author Julia Pietri, of Gang du clit

A changing body. Growing hairs. And questions about sexual orientation, gender, or even masturbation. Welcome to adolescence. Times where it’s not always easy to find simple and reliable answers to someone’s close questions.

on A little guide to pussy sex – Volume 2 (ed. Better Call Julia), in bookstores this Friday, author Julia Piétri, creator of the Instagram account @gangduclito, answers all the questions that come across teenagers, and questions on 20 minutes.

There are already sex education guidelines. Why write one for teenagers and what makes it unique?

I decided to write down the guidance I wanted to have in my hands when I was a teenager and that I was experimenting with entering puberty. In my time, information was rare: I remember I received a sex education guide for teenagers as a gift and was looking for “masturbation”, the only thing that was written was: “it’s not can deafen you “, as it ‘t really topic.

This book is designed to help pass a course, eliminate all taboos, and allow all teens in 2022 to have the answers to the questions they ask about the body – themselves and the body. others, youth, sexuality, in early times, with a scientific approach, and without sexual intercourse. At the same time, it is not a book that focuses on hygiene, avoidance and danger. Prejudice is to offer more and more inspiring content, to imply that adolescence can be a good time in life.

A time when we ask ourselves many questions about birth, gender, and when we are faced with a number of injunctions and preconceived ideas related to sexuality …

Perfect! I have a militant background, I’m a feminist and it’s important to breathe this spirit into this book, to make it a tool for egalitarian sex education. It involves deconstructing received ideas and dismantling myths that have a detrimental effect on sexuality. Women have long been taught that entering sexuality is through pain, which for the first time is painful, as such. This is a misconception that makes many women then find it very difficult to regain their desire, and their happiness. Because no, it’s not normal. In the same way that penetration is not obligatory during intercourse. There is a mandate to satisfy the desire of the man and the pleasure of the woman is always deprived of the dominant discourse. Gender equality also includes equality of pleasure and information, by talking about orgasm, consent, rules or body hair.

It is in this idea that the anatomical board is presented in the same way, to break down the received idea of ​​a strong sex and the other weak and the image of only the erect penis. Don’t forget the clitoris! Because everyone has an erectile organ. Promoting anatomical equality in the representation of bodies then helps to change mindsets.

How do you find the right tone to answer these questions that teenagers often don’t dare ask?

To create a link for teens to read this guide and give them confidence, I’m going to open up a little bit about the complexities and questions I have at their age. This shows that it is a universal step, that everything can be complicated. I, I pray for a popular culture, for flexible pedagogy. Now, in the age of social networks and a kind of elitist feminism of knowledge, without the idea of ​​transmission, we are immediately in violence. By adopting a simple and unrestrained tone, in inclusive writing, all identities will feel represented, and those who do not fully understand these questions will find answers.

This is also why there are also search pages to allow them to go ahead and get information in a safe and reliable way. There is a family planning link and QR code that links to well-designed videos on permitting or using condoms, made by serious Youtubers who are well acquainted with young people, to suit in their communication codes.

The idea is to make it a support for oneself, where one can take refuge alone, at this age when one is released. But it is also a vector of communication that accompanies speech.

The first volume of this guide is aimed at children from 4 years old, and the second is aimed at teenagers from 12 to 16 years old. What would you say to those who think they are too young to talk about sexuality?

Volume 1 is aimed at children, but also and above all at parents, to help them answer “pee poo” questions and find the right words and tone to talk about anatomy, nudity, prohibition, but also of emotions and brotherhood. To create a dialogue and make the child comfortable talking.

As for teenagers, you need to know the reality: now in 2022, most 12-year-olds have been looking at pornography at least once and for a long time. When it is not necessary to enter into sexuality, they have already entered into a – distorted – representation of sexuality. The idea with this guide is to provide information and reflection tools to support them in their construction and to deconstruct the received ideas they have already absorbed.

So the importance of talking to them about their rights, to consent, to explain what the culture of rape is: all these basic topics, which touch on patriarchy and which we have talked about very little, because we lack of feminist and activist education. However, sex education is a right.

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