“She’s white, is that ok with you?” asked a social worker of an adoptive father, who replied that he needed a home.

After battling infertility for nearly fifteen years, a couple in Washington decided to raise children through adoption. They adopted three white children who easily became part of the family despite their differences in skin color.

For Tierra Hamm and her husband Patrick Hamm, skin color was the least important factor in choosing family members. The duo shared their journey of parenting and how they found themselves as parents of three white children at seven months.

Tierra remembers meeting her husband at the age of eighteen and immediately moving in with him, ready to fulfill her dream of becoming a mother.

However, this dream seemed to escape him. Three years into her marriage, Tierra knew something was wrong. She started trying many nutritional ways to get pregnant, to no avail.

Eventually, the woman accepted her fate, believing that God never intended her to be a mother. Between 2011 and 2015, Tierra and her husband took a break from trying to conceive, releasing the pressure of their marriage.

In 2015, a woman in Washington regained hope after learning some knowledge about medical procedures that can speed up pregnancy. They started seeing a specialist, tried three stages of IUI, and followed every trendy procedure they could find. Once again, their efforts failed.

During this time, Tierra chatted with a family friend who grew up in foster care and constantly encouraged the couple to try foster care. So she and Patrick decided to try foster care after being convinced.

The couple began forming in January 2017. Five months later, they were officially allowed to have children. In July, they were linked to their first foster child, Felicity, who was 15 months old at the time. But there is a catch. Tierra recalls:

“The social worker on the phone said, ‘She’s very shy and has connectivity issues. She stopped for a moment and said,’ She’s white. Do you have that? “

Patrick quickly told the social worker that the child’s race didn’t matter, because the important thing was that he needed a home. The first 24 hours of the child’s separation from his former foster mother proved to be so emotionally draining that the couple had to doubt their decision.

However, when Felicity got used to her new home and started calling them “Mom” and “Dad” herself, the couple was convinced they had made the right choice.

The couple continues to welcome two more foster children, also white. The first, Samuel, joined the family in February 2018, just five days away. She was born exposed to drugs and had to spend 32 days in the NICU (intensive care unit that specializes in caring for sick or unborn newborns), but the couple did not hesitate to do this work. .

Then they welcomed Judah in December of the same year, when he was only seven days old. After raising three children, all under the age of two, for months, the couple knew they would never be separated again.

That’s why they started adoption procedures and officially became parents to three children in July 2020. Her adventurous journey into motherhood led Tierra to see herself differently. He shares:

“As a barren person, I never thought I would be a mother and I never thought I would be loved like I do now.”

Despite having a beautiful family with unconditional love and acceptance between them, the couple admitted that they still get glances from strangers on family outings.

However, Tierra doesn’t care, because no matter what the world thinks, nothing can change the fact that they are family. He shares:

“Families don’t have to look the same. As our kids get older, we talk about race / color more and more. Kids know our skin is different, but that doesn’t matter to them. “

In addition to their three children, the proud parents have welcomed other children over the years, most of them short-term, but their adorable trio has remained a constant in their lives. .

Now, happily choosing the path of foster care, Tierra and Patrick encourage other families to do the same, to give children a place to call home.

As part of their journey, Hamms has created a podcast, where they share their story, as well as information about adopt mixed. They also shared exciting details about their mixed family life.

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