“I learned to love as every moment is the end”

Six weeks after our wedding, my husband received a phone call from his mother and we were rushed to the hospital. Her aunt Lona is in intensive care: the severe headache she felt at breakfast turned into a cerebral aneurysm. The doctors could do nothing.

Ten members of her family gathered around Lona’s bed. The hospital chaplain asked his 17-year-old daughter if there was anything she wanted to do for her mother before the devices that kept her alive were cut off.

“I want to paint his toenails”he replied.

A call came out, and a bottle of pink nail polish appeared.

I watched my mother-in-law, my sister-in-law, my new husband, and my father-in-law take turns picking up the small bottle and brushing the nails on Lona’s nails. He is only 46 years old. I was with my new family when the doctors turned off the engines, the room was quiet, and Lona left this land.

Like a berry on a branch

As a newlywed, I learned that brain aneurysms are more common in my husband’s family. He was predisposed to this pathology which Lona’s doctor described as a bulge in a nerve in the brain, like a berry on a branch.

My husband, his brothers, sisters and their cousins ​​received a letter from Lona’s doctor advising them to get tested. If the presence of an aneurysm is detected early, a stent may be placed to reduce the risk of rupture. The fact that my husband suffers from rare but very debilitating migraines, to the point that he is partially blind and has to lie in the dark, adds to my anxiety. Migraines have nothing to do with aneurysms, but at the time I didn’t know that. I know, though, that brain aneurysms are usually not hereditary and appear immediately, so my fear is not irrational for me.

My husband’s sister, brother and cousins ​​took this letter to their doctor and did the screening. Their result was negative. They have no defects that put them at increased risk of aneurysm rupture and sudden death.

My husband? He refused to try.

Every moment feels like it’s the end

He said that if there were any veins in his blood that were in danger of breaking any day, it would be better for him not to know about it. At the time, tests were not always reliable and he was a healthy 28-year-old. If a bulge is noticed, does he really want to allow surgeons to waste his brain for a stent? No. He pre

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