Why do 18-35 year olds love less than their seniors?

If we believe the magazines, Generation Y (born between 1980-2000) had an independent sexuality, with an early onset of sexuality, many sex partners and an evening stand, especially thanks on dating sites like Tinder. But real life is obviously not in magazines if we believe many studies, one English in 2013 or one more recent, American and published in 2017, in Archives of sexual behavior.

The authors noted an increasing decline in sexual activity: young adult Y reported seven fewer sexual acts per year than in the early 90s, then nine fewer compared to those in the late 90s. and eleven less, compared to the early 2000s (54 versus 65). In a 2016 study, in the Archives of sexual behavior, the same authors observed a decrease in sexual activity by the number of sexual partners. There are more people who are single in the current generation than baby boomers (15% vs. 6%). The percentage of sexually inactive women (no sexual partner) tripled between two generations (5%versus 16%) and this percentage doubled among men (8 versus 14%).

According to Dr. Gilbert Bou Jaoudé, sexologist, this work brings a trend observed by all specialists: sex life is released as evidence of a decrease in the age of first sexual intercourse (which is now confirmed at 17), the increase in the number of declared sexual partners in women, the extension of sexual life after menopause. “We have the impression of a freer, more independent, longer, more diverse sex life, except for the frequency of sex among young people, which has decreased significantly, the sexologist commented. There are 15% on average ( from 10 to 18%) less sex in the age group between 18 and 25. This decreases as there are more chances of having sex partners!

If there is no obvious reason to explain this observation with certainty, many hypotheses are raised, which initially look like objects connected to the Internet and social networks. “They reduce the time when the couple is together, Gilbert Bou Jaoudé said. We are involved with distant and virtual people, but there is no connection with close and real people.” The reality of seeing and interacting with other people, persists even after disconnection …

The doctor believes that female sexuality is more affected by this phenomenon: female libido requires interaction, it is not just a sexuality of impulses because it requires an airlock of complexity and association, that things connected very disconnected. In men in particular, pornography can also be involved: “People with strong and frequent sexual urges have quick access to X with connected objects, the doctor continues. According to the sexologist, the involvement of connected objects is the most widespread and logical assumption, but there are other explanations in his eyes.

With the top on the list, the way of life is much more stressful and anxious than ever … ”The social and professional world is producing more stress and anxiety than ever before and this has the effect of reducing the frequency of sex because we know that in most cases, anxiety can reduce libido … ”.

The sexologist also evokes a third track: “In my opinion, endocrine disruptors play a role, he analyzes. So there is disturbance of the endocrine system and likely sexual activity, with a slight decrease in those. sex hormones and therefore sexual appetite… “

Sexuality remains a unique way to make yourself good and to connect with others, and not on your smartphone! This quantitative reduction need not be a problem if the quality of sex life does not decrease and couples are satisfied.

If, on the other hand, this is not satisfactory, knowledge of the possible factors explaining the decrease in sex frequency offers the possibility of movement, at least in the first two.

For example, the couple may set aside privileged time for the two, where phones, tablets and computers are hidden and inaccessible. They should also be forbidden to stay in the room, like the television, to transform this place into a sacred space, to fit the softness and restorativeness!

Similarly, dealing with stress and anxiety is possible, as long as you give yourself the means for comprehensive care: physical activity, relaxation or meditation, a healthy lifestyle with a balanced diet and proper sleep, or even psychotherapy if one is overwhelmed by stress. Improving your sexuality is also a great way to reconnect with happiness.

These small adjustments should already release some time and inject a little more sexual desire into the pleasure of the couple … And if other factors are involved, it is recommended to talk to a sex therapist.

Dr. Charlotte Tourmente
journalist at Allodocteurs.fr

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